Relationships of all kinds have reoccurring patterns as we continue to spiral through karmic cycles, forged to learn lessons that we’re here to innerstand. Being empathic and sensative in nature comes with very common themes. On one (or usually) both sides of that partnership.


1) Co dependency
This looks and feels like
💫 one person being overly dependent on the other or the relationship itself.
💫 Expecting everything from one person. High expectations in general.
💫 Focusing all attention on one person rather than spreading it out across many.
💫 A recluse, closed or secluded nature in that partnership.
💫 Allowing boundaries to be crossed within these co dependent foundations and then this taking unwanted turns in the process of dishonering our inherent needs and wants in that energetic exchange. (boundaries) causing exhaustion, lack of freedom, doubt and our self esteem being tied to the other.


2) Addiction and unhealthy behaviours.
This includes but is not limited to
💫 Alcohol. Tabaco. Drugs. Laziness. Bad food and drink choices. Excessive sex / pleasure.
💫 Short term gratification rather than long term success.
💫 Procrastination and self sabotage.
💫 Knowing better but doing the same things. 💫 Escapism. Escapism from responsibilities and the day to day life. Escaping in the other as well.


3) Egoic arguments, responses and expectations. This looks and feels like
💫 Reactive default reactions, born from the ego – fear, doubt, insecurity, jealousy, neediness, unworthiness, anger, resentment, holding grudges.
💫 Expressing ourselves strongly in ways we regret. And does not portray our true selves.
💫 Leaving karmic ties and cycles with individuals rather than empathising, listening and accepting the other.


4) Broken bird syndrome / hero / heroin / saviour complex.
This looks and feels like
💫 Being attracted to the pain and brokenness of someone and wanting to help (from either a compassionate, empathic place or from an egoic, saviour place.)
💫 Attracting others with their own desire and need to be fixed or healed through US rather than do their own inner work.
💫 Being a source of inspiration and happiness and nurture for OTHERS. Therefore enabling them. And disempowring them from their own rise to consciousness and self management / soothing / healing.


5) Control / conditions and expectations for our expression of love. This looks and feels like 💫 Holding back our love, affection, desire, support and or presence due to it being based on certain conditions and expectations we hold on the other.
💫 Conditional love. Expectational love. Egoic love.
💫 Seeking to control how the other acts, reacts or chooses to be in order to feel more secure.

Of course there are things we may want or need from another but this is not the unconditional love that we seek and therefore need to equaly give in return.


These themes are commonplace and will continue relationship to relationship until healed. They stem from our childhood wounds and continue throughout adulthood, for many spanning entire lifetimes without realisation.


If you’re wanting to truly leave this in the past on your journey, it’s imperative to first realise and acknowledge these in your own life, see what lessons you have truly learned and which are still in progress. And setting the intention to release them and do the inner work to move past them wholly and completely.


Ways to heal and move through this


💫 Time alone (lots of it) to know and love YOURSELF, wholly and completely like you’ve never experienced before. The love you seek, you will find first, within.


💫 Meditation and introspection to fully integrate your learnings and come to new conclusions of self.


💫 Chord cutting and letting go of unhealthy etheric chords, ties and energies that are linked to all of these individuals and still taking your energy.


💫 Being whole and happy, content and fulfilled on your own. Knowing your boundaries, your energy, your needs and desires clearly and consciously.


💫 Being concious and aware of what inside of you is still needing any of the above, knowing why and where they come from and responding as necessary to fully heal these wounds so that they no longer appear and are re triggered in new or old relationships.


This may be a life long practice that you check in on every once in a while to see if you’re still on track.


I hope this served as an insight and may assist you in your own introspective journey 😊🙏