Ive been with my wife for 9 years, married for 4. Some background, we were best friends in elementary school and reconnected after college. We have a 4 year old daughter.
Two months ago, the company my wife works at acquired a valuable up-and-coming startup in Spain. Her boss needed to send a small team at the startup to make sure their day-to-day operations runs smoothly. My wife and some people from her department were selected for the all expense paid business trip.
We both knew the long distance was going to be a challenge for the family so we made sure to Skype or call each other everyday. She was hesitant about going on the trip so I made sure to be really supportive and to be the best dad for our daughter. I rearranged my schedule to make this happen and this made it less stressful for my wife. Before she left, she even suggested we should try phone sex during her trip, I of course was all for it haha.
A month in and everything was going well so far, until a male coworker in her team found out his brother died. He left for 1 day for the funeral and came back to work immediately. I thought this was odd but I didn’t say anything. However, his brother’s death really hit home for my wife because her brother passed away 3 years ago and it was really hard for her.
So basically both of them are really close now. They bonded over their losses. I know that trauma really bonds people and her spending a lot of time with another guy when I can’t even see her is starting to get to me. Oh and another thing, this guy has a crush on my wife. He drunkenly confessed and told her at their christmas party. My wife told me at the party and we both laughed about it. That night I had my hands all over my wife and this was just making the guy angry so he left the party.
So when she told me a few days ago, they spent 1 night just talking about their brothers and her trying to comfort the guy. This did not sit well with me. I know this guy is waiting for the right moment to hit on my wife. I didn’t want to tell her that this guy is eventually going to make a move on her because the timing is still sensitive and plus it would probably make them closer. I ended the phone call letting her know our daughter and I miss her and you should try to take your mind off things and do something else.
Well things got worse, she didn’t call on Friday and on Saturday night she told me she went on a small road trip and the cellular connection was bad (not sure if I believe that). I listened to her go on about where she went on the trip and sightseeing she did. Then she told me it was just her and the male coworker together on the trip saying it was a good way for him to keep his mind off his brother.
At this point I’m mad and told her: “Wow sounds like you guys had a romantic date. Dont forget you have a daughter and husband”. She got pissed and we argued for like an hour. I couldn’t argue with her anymore so I hung up on her. In the heat of the moment I texted her: “look if your gonna sleep with this guy, just send me a text so I know our relationship is over!”
That was sent Saturday night and we still haven’t talked to each other. At this point, Im not sure what to think other than she’s cheating. She knows this guy has a huge crush on her and going on a road trip together is a bad sign. Also she’s blocked me on Instagram so I can’t see her photos anymore. Sorry this was long just need a place to vent my frustrations.