I went on a Tinder date recently. We texted very little before meeting but everything was fine. The texts were flirty and full of innuendo and five minutes into the date, it was clear we were both looking for casual sex and little more. We had already talked about how close my house was.
We chatted for a while in that slightly awkward way you talk to someone you don´t know but with whom you already know you are going to sleep with. We made little jokes, we laughed about them, we touched, we drank, we did all of that. Everything was going well.
Half an hour in, we started kissing. This is when things started to turn me off. She kept biting my mouth and stabbing it with her tongue and it bored me immensely. We broke it off and we didn´t kiss again for the rest of our stay there.
Before going on the date, I was incredibly horny. I hadn´t had sex in a month and I masturbate rarely. When we left the bar, I was apathetic and thinking about going home alone. She was walking very close to me, smelling nice and looking nice. She asked if I had wine at home and I said yes. I didn´t know if I wanted to fuck her or not, but I could always decide later. I didn´t kiss her again and I didn’t even hug her.
When we entered, she went straight to the bedroom, to see “how it was” and then sat on the bed. I went to the bathroom and took longer than necessary.
When I returned, she was in her underwear, masturbating, moaning in an exaggerated and unbelievable fashion.
Dream come true, right? Not really. I have a control thing about sex and that kind of action doesn´t really turn me on. It blindsides me. It doesn´t make me angry or hurts me either, but I don´t love it. I was in the door watching her and I thought about telling her to stop, just because. In the end I didn´t and I fucked her. I had been horny all week and I wasn´t going to turn her down. Sex was better than I had expected.
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Louis CK scandal happened today. I saw a post in her facebook about how disgusting he is and how disappointing it is to find out that one of the artist you love is misogynistic creep…. I see all her friends, who probably know her sex story with me, doing the exact same thing.
A couple of hours later, I still can´t shake off the anger and the frustration.
I believe in the strongest possible form of sexual freedom and I don´t mind if someone, man or woman, assumes consent (for contextually “acceptable” reasons) and masturbates in front of me, provided they stop immediately on command. Mistakes happen. This girl, however, says on facebook that concent should always be explicit and verbal
She really can´t see that what she did is “as bad” as what Louis did. For her, that was her expressing her sexual freedom and it was fine. And Louis is a creep and an abuser. They both masturbated in front of someone, without knowing If that person wanted to see it or not. When I asked about it, she told me it was somewhat different, because a man is stronger and all that bullshit. She got angry and ended up accusing me of slutshaming.
Louis CK asked before masturbating and never did it, as far as de NYT articles says, in a context where his physical strength or fame could be legitimately consider threats. He is a man with a strange fetish and a man who moved, a couple of time, in a sexual gray area. Is he blameless? Probably not. But the same girl who thought that his public denouncement was a triumph never asked me shit and even if wanted to do something about it, and I really really don´t, there is nothing I can do.
We need clear rules. We are mixing old gender ideas with feminism and it´s creating a double standard. You can consider what Louis did acceptable or not, but you need to have the same opinion about the girl, because the actions are extremely similar
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Every single time I hear that woman are happier in the kitchen, even if they don´t know it, I want to slap my forehead. Every time I hear that a woman looking with terror in their eyes is a way of “shittesting” I want to quit the internet for the day.
I don´t want to take the red pill and I won´t, but this is not an isolated case. The conceptual vagueness of internet feminism is cataloging an increasing amount of male sexual behaviors as predatory and, simultaneously, encouraging woman to be as sexually forward as they want to be. It´s making single males feel like they can do extremely little and that a lot can be done to them, because nobody will listen if they complain. This will make redpillers stronger and stronger.